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Slices of Life... Finding true bravery under the crown

Harry, dear, I really do think it would be best if you just stayed home. Take it from a mother. It's what's right for you, your comrades and your country.

Harry, dear, I really do think it would be best if you just stayed home. Take it from a mother. It's what's right for you, your comrades and your country.

No parent wants to see his or her child put in harm's way. By going to Afghanistan, Iraq or some other far away place to bravely fight in a war, you are not only putting your own life on the line, but perhaps the lives of your fellow soldiers as well. Those soldiers have mothers and fathers back at home who are waiting for their safe return. Please think about what you are doing and what is best for everyone involved in this complex and difficult thing called war.

I know you are trying to be brave and do what's right. I know you are trying to serve as a positive example for your country, but sometimes, life hands us a set of circumstances that preclude us from making choices about certain matters. You are experiencing one of them right now. You can't be a frontline lieutenant any more than the men in your regiment can hope to become Prince of Wales. The world just doesn't work that way.

Most think you've been born into a life of privilege. This is probably true, if privilege is defined as money, prestige, education, travel and tea with the Queen. But with privilege comes price. Yours includes the restrictions and loss of freedoms that come with fame and being born into the Royal Family.

Sometimes these restrictions may not seem like such a big deal. At other times in your life, they will feel confining and brutal. This may be one of those times. I understand that.

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I also understand that although privileged, your life hasn't always been easy. It doesn't take a mother to recognize that you've known your share of sorrow and loss. I'd be willing to guess that you miss your own mother and wish she were here to help guide you right now. That's reasonable, because although you are a man making adult decisions, your mother would forever see you as her precious little boy, and would treat you as such.

You might shrug off her hugs or pretend her advice wasn't important, but she would know that your behavior was for show, and she would stand by you unconditionally, no matter what, because that's what a mother does. Her absence must surely be felt as a great emptiness within you even now, and perhaps especially now.

You can go on to do great things, Harry. You can use your privilege, prestige and bravery to touch others in ways you've yet to imagine. It doesn't have to be on the front lines. Your mom was a champion in this area and a warrior in the true sense of the word. She was victorious on her own front lines, battling in the defense of children and adults who couldn't fight for themselves. She will be remembered long after the battles in Iraq or Afghanistan have been won or lost.

You don't have to go to war to prove anything to anybody, Harry - even to yourself. You are needed in other places. If your mother was here, I think she'd agree with me. Please, dear Harry, just stay home.

Jill Pertler is a syndicated columnist and freelance writer working with graphic designer Nikki Willgohs to provide writing and design and other marketing services to businesses and individuals. She appreciates comments and can be reached at pertmn@qwest.net .

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